Dealing With Writer’s Guilt…


These past few days have been a blur of activity for me around my house.

Without going into the boring specifics I’ll just say that..

“Life always seems to pile on more things that need to get done while giving you less time to do it all in.” 

Unfortunately, and predictably, my writing has suffered.

Not just my writing for my blog (hence the absence of a blog post Friday and Monday) but for my book as well.

When that happens I get an overwhelming feeling of regret, guilt and frustration. It never fails…

I lovingly refer to this as “Writers Guilt”.

Does this happen to you too?

 

When I’m trudging through the tasks that keep me from writing I can’t help but think about what I should be doing instead.

The irony in that, though, is that when I do sit down and finally write there is a nagging little voice that whispers in the back of my brain,

“You should be cleaning, you should be spending more time with the kids, you should be ……”

You get the idea.

I want nothing more then to put a sign on my door stating “Mom no longer exists. Go Away!” then lock myself in with a pot of coffee and just binge write.

Even though life takes me away from writing, my brain never stops piecing the story together.

It is constantly coming up with edits I think would work best, lines and scenes that I feel I should write out, etc…

It screams…. WRITE over and over until I give in and write or I blow up with frustration.

This is either a common problem for writers or I’m finally going nuts….

 

I’m sure you’ve all been there….done that…. and so forth right?? ;-)

It gets to the point where I will randomly stop doing whatever I was doing and stare off into space like I’m a resident at some loony bin because my brain has literally taken siege of my body and is forcing me to watch the scene it’s been screaming at me to write.

When that happens my husband usually shakes me out of it and tells me to go write lol but I rarely listen.

I’m stubborn like that.

I’ve always daydreamed. I think it’s sort of a requirement of creative people. Our brains just take over and all we can do is sit and watch it unfold. Some of my best ideas have come from these daydreams.

However, since I’ve taken my writing from a hobby to an actual goal these “daydreams” have become frequent and persistent.

I can’t possibly write as much as my brain wants me too.

Life just wont allow it. So what can I do to limit these “loony bin” moments?

I’ve been thinking about it and I’ve come to this conclusion….. I have no freaking idea!

I’m open to suggestions, advice, and/or just support in our mutual writing problems. 

I did do some research on it, because, well, you know me… I love research.  ;-) and I found the following tips:

  1. Wake up an hour before you would normally wake up or go to sleep an hour later then you would normally go to sleep to slip in extra writing time. (I am not capable of waking up an hour before I need to. I can barely get myself out of bed when my alarm goes off…for the 5th time. The only thing that gets me up is the reality that my kids are going to be late if I lay there one minute longer.)
  2. Keep a notebook and pen with you to write down any and all ideas that come along throughout the day. (I actually do this and it does help but obviously not enough to keep me from feeling insane.)
  3. Use your smart phone instead of a notebook to jot down your ideas. (I’ve also tried this and well, I think much faster then I can text so it ends up just getting me frustrated. I’ve  also tried doing an audio recording of my ideas but unless I’m completely alone I feel way too self conscience to do that. Can you imagine waiting in line at the post office and talking out ideas for a sex scene! lol Oh the humility!)
  4. While at work during your lunch break or a slow period write out scenes in a personal email account and send it back to yourself. (This is doable as long as you remember to send this email through your personal email account and not the work account….. That would be bad folks.)
  5.  Make a schedule and stick to it. Carve out time to write, free of distractions. (I’ve done this as well and schedules are nice to have but life likes to screw with them, a lot. I rarely get through a day without something deviating me from it.)
  6. Quit your complaining and just write! (I have a feeling this is the best advice.)

Life will never be perfect.

There will never be an ideal time or situation to write that book.

You just have to suck it up and write.

Write in chaos, write in solitude, write while dead tired, or while bored waiting in line.

JUST WRITE!

I’ve decided after writing out this blog post (By the way, this was very therapeutic. Thanks for being my psychiatrist for the day) that I’m going to print out these pictures I just created in Picmonkey, put them in some nice dollar store frames lol and place them throughout my house.

The idea is, my eyes will land on one throughout the day and it will hopefully encourage me to go and write.

You Should Be Writing

Quit Making Excuses and Just Write

Life Will Not End If You Stop and Write

The Dishes Can Wait Go Write

It's Ok To Say NO

Forget Clean Clothes...

Destiny Be Damned!


Inspiration Collage for my upcoming book, "Love in Sioux Falls"

Inspiration Collage for my upcoming book, “Love in Sioux Falls”

As I’m trying to fine tune Love in Sioux Falls, I decided to create a little collage to print out and pin on my board.

I wanted something simple but that spoke volumes about the feeling of the book and the way my two main characters see life.

If you want to see more inspirational pictures and quotes I have gathered for this book check out my Pinterest Board: WIP Love in Sioux Falls.

You can also read more about the book and Kristen & Takoda here:

RWA’s 2015 Golden Heart Competition


Every Year RWA (Romance Writers of America) puts on about 12 contests but their two major contests (in my opinion) are, the RITA and the Golden Heart.

The RITA is a contest open to RWA members who have published a manuscript for the year. Check out this list of previous winners 2014 and 2013.

The Golden Heart is a contest open to RWA members who have a completed manuscript but have not yet published it. Check out the list of previous winners 2014 and 2013

Why am I writing about the Golden Heart?

Because, I’ve decided to take the leap and listen to all the advice lovingly given to me (thanks everyone) and enter my MS in the 2015 competition.

This is not an easy decision for me because I have never written an MS from start to finish before this one and I have yet to enter it into any competitions or have it professionally critiqued.

So, what I’m trying to say is, I’m afraid it’s crap and that I’ll get laughed at. But I guess all first time authors feel that way.

I know we all have to start somewhere so with that in mind I’ve decided to commit to this personal goal. Part of my “committing” is to let you all know so that you can help keep me accountable otherwise I would just let the deadline slip on by without taking the chance.

Let’s take a moment to learn more about the Golden Heart Award. 

According to the RWA website, The Golden Heart receives around 1,200 MS each year.

In order to qualify for this contest you need to:

  • Be an active member in RWA
  • Be over the age of 18
  • Have a completed MS that is over 20,000 words for a Novella and 40,000 for a Novel
  • Have a synopsis ready for submission
  • Not have the MS published traditionally or self published.

Submission  for the 2015 contest open up on December 2, 2014 and close Janurary 12, 2015.

The cost to enter the contest is $30.

You have 8 categories to choose from:

  • Contemporary Romance
  • Erotic Romance
  • Inspirational Romance
  • Historical Romance
  • Paranormal Romance
  • Romantic Suspense
  • Short Contemporary Romance
  • Young Adult Romance

(I will be entering into the Romantic Suspense Category)

In the preliminary round the MS’s are read by fellow RWA members.

Entries that meet the first round qualifications will move to the final round.

The Finalists will be mention on the RWA website and Twitter accounts on March 26, 2015.

The top 10% of each category will advance to the final round.

The final round will be judged by 3 editors from Romance Publishing Houses.

*Many Golden Heart Finalists actually go on to sell their MS because of their exposure in this contest.*

The winners are announced at the yearly RWA conference and receive a Golden Heart necklace.

Click here to watch the 2013 Presentation of the Golden Heart. (I was surprised at how formal this is!)

2015 Golden Heart Winners will be annouced at the RWA conference in New York, New York (July 22-25).

If you think the Golden Heart sounds like a contest you don’t want to miss but are not an RWA member then Sign up!

If you are on the fence about whether or not an RWA membership is worth it or you just want to know more about it read my article about the organization and my honest opinion of what it’s like being a memeber.

 

#ImEnough & Thanks to The Mrs. I Have An Anthem To Prove It!


Have you heard of “The Mrs“? They are a group of 5 women from Austin, Texas who decided it was time to hear about  something other then “teenage heartbreak and gone-wild nights at the club”. So, they formed a band and something amazing happened.

Instead of a music video to promote their new single “I’m Enough” they did something so much more worthwhile. Check it out below:

I can’t even begin to explain how touched I was to see this. I not only shared it right away on Facebook and Twitter but I decided I needed to dedicate a whole blog post about it and the band that made it happen.

I'm EnoughWhen I came across this video on one of my content feeders I was in a crappy state of mind.

I felt tired and sad but worst of all I had been dealing with negative thoughts about my body and my self worth the whole day. I don’t know why, I guess it was just one of those days.

It’s hard to realize that we are good enough just the way we are, let alone accept it as truth and remember it when the negative thoughts start creeping back in.

We all struggle to reach this “perfection” status with our lives, our work and our bodies when what we really need to reach for is happiness and peace of mind.

With music and messages like the ones The Mrs are spreading around we thankfully get a little reminder of what is really important and we can smile and say, “I’m Enough”.

PS- The stickers you saw in the video are available to purchase! Check them out here. You can bet your ass I’m ordering a ton of these and putting them all over my house. They are $12 for a set of 4.

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If you want to learn more about The Mrs. follow their:

Facebook: TheMrsBand

Twitter: @themrsband

Getting to know Takoda…


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Last week everyone got a sneak peek into who Kristen was in “Love in Sioux Falls”.

This week I thought I would introduce you all to Takoda, the object of every woman’s desires and the reluctant hero of this story.

In order to be fair I decided he should fill out the same questionnaire as Kristen did. This is what came of that little exercise:

 

Takodas Questionnaire

 

Yeah…can you say, “I am man, hear me roar!”?

Without meaning to, Takoda described himself better then any questionnaire ever could. He is a man of very few words. He doesn’t talk on and on about anything, least of all himself. That doesn’t mean he is cold or conceited. In fact, he’s very open and loyal to those he trusts and loves.

 

As an outsider looking in Takoda seems like a man who is use to getting his way, who know’s he’s practically irresistible to women and doesn’t mind that one bit. However, once you break through that outer shell you realize he’s a man of strong morals who will do anything for his family and friends. He’s not one to sugar coat, anything, but he will always be honest with you, whether you want him to or not.

At 28 he’s pretty set in his idea that love makes you weak and vulnerable. Two things he promised himself he would never be.

It’s pretty interesting what fate has in store for these two characters.

Of course, if you ask them, they would tell you that there is no such thing as fate.

Check out my inspiration board on Pinterest: WIP Inspiration: Love in Sioux Falls for pictures of the man who inspired Takoda and some insights into how he sees the world.

4 Questions + 4 Answers = My What, How and Why.


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My friend Jen from Jen’s Pen Den asked me if I would like to take part in a Writer’s Blog Hop. Here is her blog post, “My Writing: The What, How and Why”.

I’ve never taken part in one before but I’ve seen a few million lol So i figured, why not!

The purpose of this particular blog hop is to get to know your fellow writers by accepting an invitation from a writer friend of yours, answering the 4 questions however you see fit and passing it on to how ever many other writers that want to participate.

I decided to do things a little differently. {big shocker right?!}

 Instead of sending out formal invitations to my fellow writers (mainly because I forgot to) I thought, why not make it an open invitation! This way there is no pressure or expectation.

If you like what you read below and find you want to share your “What, How and Why’s” then just leave me a comment and I will add a link to your blog post, website and/or twitter account.

At this point you’re probably asking yourself, “What’s the point?”

The point is whatever you want it to be.

  • This can be just a fun “get to know me” exercise
  • A marketing strategy to send viewers to your blog, website and social media accounts that might not have done so on their own,
  • Or a “productive” way to waste time, time that you should be using to write but your writing muse is either on strike or refuses to play nice.

So, without further ado, here are my 4 questions and answers.

(1) What are you working on?

I’m currently working on “Love in Sioux Falls” a Romantic Suspense with a curvy twist.

(2) How does your work differ from others of it’s genre?

Currently my work straddles a few genres Contemporary Romance, Romantic Suspense and Interracial Romance. However, I feel it’s set apart from the masses because I focus solely on plus size heroines who are not ashamed of their bodies.

(3) Why do you write what you do?

I write what I write for a lot of reasons.

  • Because I am plus size and sexy and not ashamed 
  • Because I grew up with people telling me I should be ashamed
  • Because I am tired of reading about perfect heroines with perfect bodies
  • Because I am tired of reading about plus size heroines who spend the whole book trying to figure out how a man could be attracted to them
  • Because I like sex…a lot ;-)

(4) How does your writing process work?

Currently, it works slowly…very slowly.

I outline and plan obsessively, then I loose myself in research FOR MONTHS, once I find my way out of that rabbit hole I start to write. The first draft doesn’t take too long because I just type. No editing or rereading allowed. However, once the revision stage hits, I’ve found that I’ve got quite a mess on my hands and end up stuck in revision hell for the unforeseeable future.

Which is where I’ve been now for, well I’ve lost track of how many months its been. I think maybe somewhere around 5!

So, I’m sending out a formal SOS to all my writing friends. HELP! I’m at the point of either giving up on this book or almost rewriting the whole thing.

What do you do when you realize your plots aren’t strong enough to carry a suspense?

* Don’t forget, if you want to answer and share your own What, How and Why with your fellow writers, leave me a comment below and I will edit this blog post to include your links. *

Check out ….

A Chronicle of Karma and her story of why she writes, what started her on that path and her advice to new writers.

If Not Me, Who? If Not Now, When?


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You’ve probably heard about Emma Watson’s speech that she gave at the UN regarding Feminism and Equality. If not, watch the video below. I promise it is worth your time.

Let’s put aside Ms. Watson’s fame and celebrity status and just think about the words she said during this speech.

She begins by stating that the word Feminism has become hated and synonymous with bashing men.

I agree. Without thinking too deeply about it my knee jerk reaction to the word is a joke. It’s a description of a woman who is somewhat crazy, bitchy and hates men.

Now before you start poking me with your “pitchforks” let me finish.

She went on to describe what feminism means and that we might actually stand for what it believes in without even realizing it.

That’s when my “aha” moment happened.

In all my 32 years I have always thought that since I love fashion, romance and all the “girly” things in life that anything having to do with feminism had nothing to do with me. I knew from an early age that my strongest desire was to raise a family. I thought that since my aspiration in life was to stay at home, to be there mentally and physically for my husband and children that I was the opposite of a feminist. I just wasn’t that “type” of person. So in that line of thinking I never actually read up on what feminism meant, what it means to be a feminist and I only had a basic knowledge of its causes.

After hearing Emma describe, in her terms, what it means I realized that I was in my own way.

I believe in equal rights among the sexes. If a woman chooses to have a career outside of the home she should be able to pursue that and if a man wants to be the parent that stays home and takes care of his kids and emotionally supports his wife he should be able to without being ridiculed.

I feel that both men and women should have the right to express their emotions without fear of being made fun of. When you try to hide the emotions inside of you, it builds up over time and becomes a sort of poison that will only do you harm.

I feel it’s absurd that women get paid less for the same job a man performs. Just like it’s absurd for two people of the same sexes working the same job to get paid a different wage because the color of their skin.

As I sat and listened to her entire speech I felt that the #heforshe campaign touched not only on feminism but on the idea that we need to stop hating on each other (whether its through sex, race, or body size) and start lifting each other up. You know, all that Kumbaya crap ;-)

But really, hating on each other, putting others down, does nothing to improve our lives. The sooner we acknowledge that and believe it as truth the better off we will be.

Whether your are a feminist, a body positive supporter, or just a spreader of love and peace we all want the same thing; Love and acceptance for who we are and the end of hatred to those who are different then us.

If you take anything away from her speech let it be that feminism is not a dirty word and on the flip side neither is the phrase “like a girl”. Watch this video below to see what I mean.

Who The Heck Fills These Things Out?


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Hello everyone, I thought I would give you a sneak peek into” Love in Sioux Falls” (my current WIP) .

Let’s get to know Kristen. She is our sassy curvy New Yorker who happens to be the heroine of the story. But don’t tell her that. She thinks love is a myth that people force themselves to believe in when they get lonely. Yeah, she’s got some issues.

I decided to let her fill out a questionnaire and post it here so that you can get a feel for who she really is. Enjoy!

  1. What is your name? Kris Do you have a nickname? Just call me Kris.
  2. What color is your hair? Brown Your Eyes? um. Greenish…I guess. I don’t know! I don’t stare at them all day long!
  3. What kind of distinguishing facial features do you have? Ha! At first I thought that said “disgusting”…. I have a face…. it’s plain and boring
  4. Do you have a birthmark? Nope Where is it? I. Don’t. Have. One. What about scars? Do emotional ones count??  How did you get them? From life
  5. Who are your friends and family? Niki and Niki Who do you surround yourself with? Niki Who are the people you are closest to? Niki Who do you wish you were closest to? Mark Wahlberd…The Calvin Klein years! Oh yeah baby, show me them tighty whities! 
  6. Where were you born? In a hospital Where have you lived since then? Here on Earth Where do you call home? New York Baby!
  7. Where do you go when your angry? The Fridge….shut up. Don’t judge!
  8. What is your biggest fear? That this questionnaire will never end… Who have you told this to? You. Who would you never tell this to? Everyone Why? Because I don’t want people to think I’m lame enough to waste time filling out shit like this. 
  9. Do you have a secret? If I do I wouldn’t tell you …. because it’s a S.E.C.R.E.T. 
  10. What makes you laugh out loud? Niki trying to act like an adult
  11. When have you been in love? Love is overrated  Had a broken heart? You’d have to let someone in to have a broken heart and I’m never going to let that happen. 
  12. What is in your refrigerator right now? Last night’s dinner… Pizza. other then that I could care less. On your bedroom floor? Crap that I’m too lazy to put away On your nightstand? A book I wish I was reading right now instead of doing this. In your garbage can? Um…Trash?! Who asks questions like this!?
  13. Look at your feet. OK Describe what you see there. I see pillars of strength that carry me through this hard existence called life. Oh wait, no, I just see my feet. 
  14. When you think of your childhood kitchen, what smell do you associate with it? Why? Strawberry Pancakes. Shit! Now I’m hungry.
  15. You are doing intense spring cleaning. HA! Yeah Right. What is easy for you to throw out? What is difficult for you to part with? Why?
  16. It’s Saturday at noon. No, it’s Wednsday morning actually. What are you doing? Wishing I was in bed reading my book…
  17. You’re getting ready for a night out. Where are going? If I’m getting ready for a night out then that means that Niki is forcing me which means I’m about to enter into the boughs of humanity… a club. What are you wearing? Knowing Niki, something too short and too tight. Cause “you can’t show up in a club without showing off all the goods!” Who will you be with? Did a guy make this questionnaire because your listening skills are crap!
  18. What is one strong memory that has stuck with you from childhood? Why is it so powerful and lasting? OK, yup. Time to leave. I’m not going there with you or anyone else. 

 

Well folks, that’s our Kristen. Witty, sarcastic and hater of anything other then her best friend, pizza and her books.

She doesn’t know it yet but life’s about to get a wee bit more interesting lol and that heart of hers might not be as safe as she thought.

Stay tuned for more sneak peeks of “Love in Sioux Falls”!

*Side Note* – I’m thinking of changing the title to “Destiny Be Damned!”. However, I will wait till I’ve climbed the revision mountain and reread the entire story to see what works best.

Who know’s, it might all come down to a vote! lol

If you want to know more about the life and people of “Love in Sioux Falls, check out my story inspiration board on Pinterest:

WIP Inspiration: Love In Sioux Falls

BTW – I got the inspiration for the questionnaire at WriteWorld (a tumblr blog dedicated to helping writers).

How To Make an Infographic


I love infographics!

They are an extremely visual way of presenting facts that could otherwise be boring. Not to mention they are a great marketing tool.

So, I decided now was the time to learn how to make one on my own and what better way to talk about it then in an infographic!

How To Make An Infographic

OK, lets break this down a bit more.

Before you even begin to construct your infographic you need to do the following:

Brainstorm

  • Have a solid idea that is not only relevant to your audience but covers a topic that is in demand or trending.
  • Do some research. Once you have your idea, gather as much info on the subject that you can and then check to see if anyone else has made an infographic about it.
  • If someone has, don’t worry. You can still make yours, just make sure your infographic offers something that the others did not and that it catches the eye better.
  • Decide how you want to present this idea. Do you want to be informal or educational? You need to decide if you want to include trusted facts and/or statistics or if you just want to give your opinion on it.
  • Figure out from your research on other infographics how you want your infographic to look, what the layout and colors should be and the best size for how you are going to share it.

Now it’s time for the fun part!

Designing

Step 1 – Sign up with Canva. It’s a program that is free and offers an extremely user-friendly way to create amazing designs for the following:

  • Album/Podcast Cover
  • Social Media
  • Presentation
  • Poster
  • Facebook Cover
  • Facebook Post
  • Blog Graphic
  • Document
  • Card
  • Twitter Post
  • Invitation
  • Business Card
  • Twitter Header
  • Pinterest
  • Real Estate Flyer
  • Google+ Cover
  • Kindle Cover
  • Photo Collage
  • Facebook Ad
  • Facebook App

Step 2 – Click “Custom Designs” and enter the exact dimensions you need. A good size for an infographic is 600 x 1,800. For more detailed information that mentions which sizes work with which social media site check out this article from InfoGraphicDesignTeam, “Even Infographics Have Size Standards“.

Step 3 – Click the “BKGROUND” tab to select the background color of your infographic. There are free and paid backgrounds to choose from. Every graphic and image that requires payment to use cost only $1.

*Tip: If you are stuck on what color palettes to use you can go to the Canva Blog and do a search for color palettes. 

Step 4 – Click the “Layout” tab to select a layout to use or you can design freely on the blank template. Remember that while designing you can zoom in or out as much as you need.

Step 5 – Click the “Search” tab to select images and graphics to add to your infographic. When you are in the search column don’t enter anything in the search field. Scroll down to see the categories they have. Each category offers free and paid images and graphics. If you don’t see what you are looking for you can enter the term in the search field and see what comes up or upload your own. All graphics can be easily customized with your color palette and preferred font.

*Tip: If you want to make sure everything is symmetrical and you want to save time, copy any graphics and bodies of text that repeat. 

Step 6 – Make sure everything flows on the chart and catches the eye. The colors need to be appealing, the font needs to be readable and the graphics need to enhance the piece, not clutter it up.

Step 7 – Proofread everything and recheck any facts or statistics. Canva has a great feature where it will spellcheck as you go along in the design process and it also automatically saves each and ever change made to the infographic.

Step 8 – Don’t forget to include your name and website address. That way everyone knows who made the infographic and hopefully it will help drive traffic to your website. Also, remember to include any resources you used while gathering data on the topic.

*Tip: You can improve your infographic’s reach even more if you let your resources know that you used them for the infographic and linked back to there website or social media account. 

Step 9 – Click the “Download” tab and embed the infographic in a blog post to promote it. Then, share it across all your social media sites.

*Tip: Google reads an infographic like an image. Therefore, you can’t just have an infographic as a blog post, you need to add relevant keywords in the body of the post.

If you learn better by seeing instead of reading, check out Kimberly Ann Jimenez’s YouTube video where she walks you through the process of creating an infographic on Canva:

How To Create Infographics (The Ultra-Simple & Easy Way)

Information about my Infographic:

  • This infographic was the first one I made. EVER. Canva.com is just that easy and user-friendly.
  • I used the color combination called “Modern California” as recommended by the Canva blog. The color codes are F16A70 , FFE5BC, DDF9D9 , ADD9FE
  • I used fonts; ALEGREYA SMALL CAPS sz12, Alike sz8, Exo Thin sz8.

30 Curvy Body Acceptance Websites That Will Help Build Confidence


30 Curvy Body Acceptance Websites That Will Help Build Confidence

Being fat has always been a lonely, negative feeling.

Even when you are around other fat people, when you’re in a negative frame of mine, you see yourself as being the only sufferer.

Life seems unfair, you feel like your unlovable and things can get very dark and depressing.

Everywhere you turn you see, hear or read something that says you are worthless, you are lazy, you are undesirable, you are not worth it.

For some reason when in the presence of someone else who is fat we don’t seek acceptance from each other or understanding. We sit back and compare our body to theirs in hopes that they are worse off. I don’t know why this happens.

It’s sad really, because it takes a lot for a fat person to socialize out in public for fear of being ridiculed and shamed.

It wasn’t until the ease of internet access and chat rooms that gave us the opportunity to socialize through our computers. To compare our despair and negative thoughts towards ourselves under the protective blanket anonymity.

However, with the invention of chat rooms came trolls who entered to live out a fetish of theirs.

As time went on, blogging and forums became the norm and we started to feel more connected to each other.

It was a safer environment to express how we truly felt and a magical thing happened. We found support and encouragement within each other.

Strong friendships were made and many people were able to turn their lives of despair into lives of hope.

Then, of course,  the trolls came again trolling onto open forums and websites spewing hatred and bigotry for fun. There are even whole websites dedicated to fat shaming like we don’t get enough of that through everyday media. 

You would think after being repeatedly attacked in real life and online that we fat people would just shrink into the shadows again never to come out. But that didn’t happen.

No, something absolutely amazing  happened! The strongest and loudest of us stood up and declared “Enough is Enough” and proudly faced the trolls of the internet, media and in real life, letting them know we are done taking the abuse. 

They showed them that we will not live in shame just because our bodies do not fit the size society thinks we should be.

A body, no matter how big or small, is a wonderful thing and we are finally starting to spread the message:

Find a way to accept your body the way it is, the love for yourself will soon follow.

When you love yourself, incredible things can happen:

  • It will no longer matter what other people think or say.
  • Instead of being insecure and hating yourself for it, you will stand confident in your body and your worth.

Happiness isn’t achieved when you finally attain that “perfect size” it’s achieved when you finally accept who you are and fully embrace it, fat and all.

Don’t isolate yourself from the friendship and support that is out there because you are afraid of being judged or ridiculed.

Stand strong, let the world know you exist and that it is OK.

Look for communities to join, blogs to follow and forums to participate in. 

It’s incredibly important to not only connect out in the real world but online as well.

Today, I am going to share 30 blogs/websites that I’m currently enjoying that bring me confidence and courage to love my curves.

 

The Curvy Fashionista 
Determined to show the fashion world and fellow plus size women that we CAN don the latest and greatest of trends, fashions and styles, The Curvy Fashionista delivers the goods to fashion your curves covering the latest in fashion, news, trends, interviews, tips, entertainment, and the Plus-Size community.

The Militant Baker
I strive to provide a place in the blogosphere that offers fresh and colorful perspective on what is presented as normal to those immersed in our gender bent, body loathing society. I love that the internet is an open forum and the only media that doesn’t have a universal one-sided skew. You have to sift through a lot of shit on the internet, but you can also find gems. I hope this is a gem for you.

Brittany Herself: Curvy Girl Guide
Brittany, Herself features fashion, brutally raw body talk, food and embedded tumblr.
The site has a blog, a community, a google talk show, and spin offs from her husband.

Curvy Yoga
a training & inspiration portal for yoga students and teachers of all shapes and sizes who want a body positive practice that supports them in exploring what body acceptance means to them.

Girl With Curves 
A Tumblr blog that is a top source of style inspiration for curvy women worldwide. With a passion to make women feel confident and beautiful, Awasthi is a style influencer on a mission, and a leader in the body confidence movement.

Our Bodies Our Selves
Our Bodies Ourselves (OBOS) is a nonprofit, public interest organization that develops and promotes evidence-based information on girls’ and women’s reproductive health and sexuality.
This is an organizations website that also offers a blog

Fierce Freethinking Fatties 
Fierce, Freethinking Fatties covers the issues surrounding obesity, including society’s treatment of fat people, Health at Every Size, the myths of long-term weight loss, and weight discrimination. We invite vigorous dissent, but have a zero tolerance policy toward assholes looking to spew hatred and ignorance.

Garnerstyle: The Curvy Girl Guide
A Fashion Blog for plus size women fun by a plus size fashion stylist.

Curves and Chaos 
Curves and Chaos™ is a fashion, beauty, and lifestyle blog for the CURVY (plus size) woman. She is glamorous, fabulous, foxy, confident, and more.

Dances With Fat
A blog about dancing at any size, size acceptance and health at ever size.

Plus Size Princess 
Hi, my name is CeCe and I chronicle my adventures as a Plus Size Princess in New York City on this site! Click around to find my favorite plus size fashion styles, plus size shopping sites… and of course I love to talk about plus size dating so you can find lots of dating stories here too.

Body Love Wellness 
The websites aim is to empower plus sized women to live their best, most joyful lives, free of stress and shame over what they eat and what they weigh.

Curvy Girl Chic 
Curvy Girl Chic is a plus size fashion blog full of outfit posts, product reviews, trend and shopping spotlights, and discourse on current events in the fashion community.
A professionaly photographed fashion blog .

Arched Eyebrow 
The blog talk about plus-size fashion and take a body-positive engagement with the fat form.

Busty Girl Comics 
300 comics about the perks & problems of having boobs. Always body-positive and never more revealing than a bikini.

Curvy Wordy 
a plus size fashion and lingerie blog. One woman’s quest to find lingerie and stylish clothing to suit her extremely voluptuous hourglass figure.

The Fat Nutritionist 
I educate people about healthy eating. I’m not here to give you a stern talking-to about your weight, or your eating habits, or your lack of exercise. I can help you get to a friendly place with food and your body.

The Curvy and Curly Closet
Through this blog, I share my journey through fashion as a plus size woman living in Paris and travelling between Africa, Europe and the United-States.

Pretty Plus Size 
This is a Pretty Plus Size blog about curvy, thick, voloptuous, full figured, fat, etc.

The Fat and Skinny on Fashion 
This blog was founded as a hobby to showcase photography, music, fashion news, and art from the perspective of a plus size fashion journalism graduate student.

Grown and Curvy Woman 
Where style has no age or size. A curvy woman seeking to show other plus size divas that WE too have style and DO NOT need to compromise our integrity to look good
A blog where she regularly posts fashionable outfits for plus sized women and tells you where to buy the pieces.

Curvy is the New Black 
I’m Karla Soltero a full figured lady trying to fit in a petite world. Born in El Paso,Tx raised in Cd. Juarez, Chih. MX English isn’t my first language. Es Español.
She posts pictures through instagram, shares outfit ideas and songs that she likes.

Operation Beautiful 
The mission of Operation Beautiful is to post anonymous notes in public places for other people to find. The point is that WE ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL. You are enough… just the way you are!

Adios Barbie 
Adios, Barbie: The One Stop Body Image Shop for Identity Issues including Size, Race, Media, and More!
They blog about activism, aging, body image, disabilities, eating disorders, gender roles, LGBTQ, the media, race & culture, sexuality and size.

Fatshionista 
A community group blog that is a diverse fat-positive, anti-racist, disabled-friendly, multi-gendered, queer-flavored, politically-engaged community, open to everyone

Hems For Her 
A plus size fashion blog whith funy stories and talk about the real life.

Extra Large As Life 
A place to share my love of fashion and my belief of being plus size positive.

Curvy Ceo 
The Life and style guide for the plus-size profressional woman. Curvy CEO is your portal for fashion, style, and beauty advice with tips for professional and personal development sprinkled in for good measure. Bubbling over with humor and wit, Curvy CEO will help the plus-sized career gal bust through that glass ceiling and look effortlessly fabulous at the same time.
The site offers a blog, a list of curvy shops, events, links, products, styling services and tips and tricks.

Fat Chic 
Fat Chic focuses on plus size fashion – starting with what’s available on the market right now. After the clothing, it’s about plus size women – especially women creating, performing, engaging or just plain being awesome. Whether it’s a plus size athlete or a fat positive activist, these women are what makes Fat Chic what it is.

Fat Heffalump 
My name is Kath and I’m a fat activist. I talk about life as a fat person and work towards obtaining the basic human right for fat people to live their lives in peace, dignity and with respect, without fear of vilification, ridicule or discrimination. This space is a fat positive space. Fat hate and shaming will not be tolerated. Proselytising of diets or weight loss is not welcome.